In this week’s message, Pastors James and Tracy Boyd continued our Relationship Status series as they encouraged us to live sacrificially within our relationships. Living sacrificially begins by understanding our individual relationship to Jesus is the foundation of our marriage. We are transformed to be more like Jesus when we spend time with Him individually, allowing us to love like Him more each day; and the more we love like Jesus, the more we see real love equals real sacrifice. Living sacrificially in our marriage looks like devoting ourselves to our spouses needs, understanding how to communicate with one another and knowing how we can resolve conflict.
When we look to discover our spouse’s needs it is important to remember:
- the way we treat, value and love each other is out of respect for Christ
- men need honor, respect, support and sex
- women need security, affection and communication
We strengthen our marriages by:
- not letting conflict stay unresolved due to selfishness
- communicating unmet expectations
Our go to questions are:
- what can I give to this relationship
- how do these words help
- is this in my head or did I communicate it
- How would you describe your personal relationship with Jesus during this season of your life? How has the state of your relationship with Jesus influenced your marriage? What are things you can do to bring more of what God is doing in your individual relationship with Him into your marriage?
- Do you have any needs you feel your spouse is not meeting? How can your spouse be intentional about meeting those needs? How can you communicate your unmet needs to your spouse?
- Are there any needs you may not be meeting for your spouse? How can you be intentional about meeting those needs?
- What are some strengths and weaknesses that may exist in you and your spouse’s communication? How have they influenced your marriage? What can you do to increase your communication skills? How will doing so better your marriage?
- Do you have any unspoken expectations in your marriage? How have they influenced your view of your spouse? What may make it difficult for you to express these expectations? How can you communicate them to your spouse?
- What are conflict resolution skills you currently use in your marriage? How have they helped limit conflict from arising in your relationship? What are other tools you can adopt to help minimize conflict?
Luke 9:23, John 12:24, Ephesians 5, 1 Corinthians 7:5, 1 Peter 3:10-12, Colossians 4:6, Ephesians 4:3,29