Big Idea

In today’s message, Pastor James Boyd continued our Relationship Status series with his message entitled, “Singleness”. We often confuse singleness with being alone. However, the “singleness season” might be the most crucial part of our relationship process. In his message, Pastor James Boyd explained how our “singleness season” is an intentional period of our lives where we get to spend time with God and allow Him to form us unto everything He intended us to be. In our “singleness season” we are able to build a solid foundation for our future and current relationships by building communication, intimacy, honesty and trust with God first. This allows us to love those closest to us as we love ourselves.

When looking to embrace our “singleness season” it’s important to remember:

  • Intimacy with God is actually your first purpose on earth
  • Your relationships will be a wilderness of issues if you don’t take a “singleness season”
  • If you’re going to change the world, you need to change
  • You can’t love others without loving yourself
  • You won’t work on yourself if you don’t like yourself
  • You don’t marry the outward person. You marry what they’re built of

We can allow God to work on us by:

  • Turning your list on you
  • Putting yourself first
  • Treating your temple (body) like you care about it
  • Serving your butt off
  • Loving God, then ourselves, then others

Discussion Questions

  • What do you believe God says about you? What lies have you believed about yourself? How have they stopped you from turning to God? What can you do to break through those lies and see yourself as God does?
  • What makes it difficult for you to communicate, be intimate, honest and trusting with God? How can you build your communication, intimacy, honesty and trust with God?
  • For those who are single, how will your “singleness season” prepare you to best serve and love your future spouse, as well as others around you? What is on your list that you can start working on in yourself?
  • For those who are married, how can embracing a “singleness season” help you love your spouse as God loves you? What opportunities do you believe you may have missed in your “singleness season”? How can you allow God to work on those areas and build you back up?
  • What can you practically do to show God you’re serious and ready for Him to make you the person He created you to be?

Key Scriptures

2 Chronicles 15:2, Jeremiah 24:7, Zechariah 1:3, Hebrews 13:5, Mark 1:37-38, Psalm 51:10, Matthew 22:37-39, Ephesians 2:10, John 3:16, Philippians 4:8-9, Galatians 5:22